Yes, I have been quiet since my last post… well, it was/ is still raya… and in Brunei, that means a whole month of visiting, eating and drinking, socialising, more eating and drinking, late nights, even more eating and drinking…
But don’t get us wrong, raya is not just about food. It’s the month of forgiving, of mending fences, of establishing or re-establishing relations, or even strengthening existing ones.
An expatriate friend once chastised me, on behalf of all Bruneians, for our apparent indulgences and excesses during raya, which he argued made no sense given our month-long fast throughout Ramadan. What he didn’t understand of course was that the everyone is (overly) keen to host and feed you because we believe every bite or sip that your guests take is act of deed. Sure, we are guilty of wastage at times (not allowed or condoned, obviously!), but the essence of the whole affair is really to treat your guests in the best possible way and to make them feel welcome. My dear colleague, I suspect, had never ventured into a Malay house or accepted a kind invitation to one (blame his Brit reserve). But even if he never did, I’m certain of one thing; the Grinch couldn’t have missed the raya spirit all around him during this month.

Vibrant colours abound, from fairy lights that decorate houses…


… to the festive clothes that we wear…



… to our colourful traditional golden brocade (kain tanunan), to the little envelopes for money gifts for kids (angpau)…

… to the food…


But, underneath all the array of colours and delicious food, the real spirit of Raya exudes through the warmth, hospitality and goodwill as we visit each other.


Selamat Hari Raya everyone, Maaf zahir dan batin! Food pics coming up…